As I wrote in prior posts, I have a horse that is difficult. I’ve learned techniques to manage her behavior, and we steadily make progress. She is now seven years old and I hope to show her 3rd level dressage this year.
This horse does relapse back into bad behavior. So not all the techniques I’ve learned work 100% of the time. At first I tried to follow them to the letter. I told myself I must not be doing it right if it doesn’t work. But on my own, with nobody helping me, I found this wasn’t productive. It was wrong-headed thinking. I had to make a decision about where to go with the training.
I don’t think I can ever sell this horse. Her behavior can be unpredictable, and I feel it would be dangerous to pass her on to someone not skilled in dealing with it. Someone who could deal with it would probably get frustrated and turn to methods not conducive to making the situation better. More than one person told me she just needed to be beaten.
So as I think about it, what keeps coming into my mind is that I am responsible for her. I’ve had her most of her life, so whatever her problems, I had a hand in making them. No, she isn’t fun to ride sometimes, and when things are hard, it’s easy to want to give up. I say to myself that I deserve better. But so does she. She needs me to get better so she can reach her potential.
I accepted my role in her life. That it wouldn’t be easy, that it would be frustrating, and that I couldn’t seek professional help because people were so critical of my solutions and wouldn’t allow my ideas in.
Sometimes in business, you are in situations you don’t want to be in, and it would be easy to say, it’s too hard, it’s too much work, or my personal favorite, it’s not fair. But you have to ask yourself if you are the best person for the job. Could someone else do it better, or are you uniquely qualified? Will someone else even be willing to do it?
If not, then you must take it on. You must do it even if you don’t want to. You must do it even if you don’t see any reward beyond yourself, even if it won’t get recognized. By experiencing this on your own, without outside influence, your core will become stronger, and this will intersect with an unknown opportunity in the future. This is the foundation for success.
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